The word discipline has evoked a negative response for most of us. We consider discipline to come about as a consequence of doing something bad rather than good. This is the way that we’ve been conditioned, but I’m here to show you exactly why your thinking is wrong.
Self-love doesn’t exist without discipline.
You never need to be disciplined to do something bad for you, right? You need the discipline to do something good for you.
You don’t need the discipline to eat a pizza, you don’t need discipline to sleep in and you don’t need the discipline to sit on the couch and do nothing, but you do need the discipline to do the things that are good for you, and if you’re doing the things that are good for you then that is cultivating self-love.
Self-love is not eating that pizza when you know you shouldn’t, self-love is having the self-discipline to eat something healthier because it’s better for your body.
Self-discipline is not hitting the snooze button, it’s waking up because you know that if you wake up when you want to, you’re going to be able to start your day off right.
Self-discipline is not taking it easy after a hard day of work but to go to the gym because you made a contract with yourself that you will go to the gym after work.
It’s to be able to push past when you think you can’t do it. It’s to do what you say you’re going to do especially when you have a contract with yourself because when you break a contract with yourself, that’s not coming from a loving place.
Self-discipline is needed to do the things that are good for you, to wake up early, to meditate, to work out to eat healthily, to do all of those things for you to build a better version of yourself.
Not only does this create positive change in your life, but when you love yourself the people around you reap the benefits.
Loving yourself means that you have more energy to work productively, it means that you’ve got more time and willingness to spend with your family, you’re more likely to explore the beauty that life has to offer, the benefits of loving yourself are endless!
If you’re like most people, then you’ll find that doing things for others is far easier than doing it for yourself.
If you’re a parent, a guardian, or simply care for another, you’ll do everything in your power to make sure that they’re happy and healthy. So if you’ll do that for somebody else, why wouldn’t you do that for yourself? It’s so much more difficult to do these things for ourselves. It’s not as if the knowledge isn’t there, I know that you’re aware of exactly what it is that you need to do to love yourself more, but you don’t have the discipline.
You may think that self-love is eating that pizza because it makes you happy, but that’s not real abundance, that happiness is just instant gratification. That’s why you feel crappy after the high of eating it has left you.
You know that you didn’t stick to your promise, and although it made you happy at that moment, it’s not making you happy now.
If you truly love yourself you will develop the self-discipline to get done whatever is it you need to get done to create the life that you want.
Self-discipline more-so than anything else is not breaking the promises that you have made to yourself.
We have to realise that ultimate fulfilment is not success in cars and clothes and money and houses, it is to become the highest version of yourself so that that version can go out and serve the world.
If you truly want to change the world you’ve got to focus on yourself.
Self-love is not a destination, self-love is a starting point and when you truly love yourself, then self-discipline ends up building itself in there.